This guy Ronnie who I first chatted to for ages on msn, then met in person and got along well with and have had (fairly average) sex with on a few different occasions has been trying to get me to hang out with him aka have sex with him. He was trying to get me to go drive 30-40mins late last night to his house he shares with his sister and sleep over in his uncomfortable bed with one pillow and of course have blurh sex.
I told him the truth that I wanted to sleep in my own bed and have a nice sleep in. Then he tried to invite himself over to sleep in my bed and then say that i'd have a nice sleep in in his bed etc etc. I told him again how i wanted to have a sleep in alone. Some guys are just so one track minded and think they are so great in bed that they don't have to make it worth your while. I get he wanted sex but he didnt seem to get that I didn't want it whatsoever. He could have asked me to go out to the movies or something tonight and then it gets too late and asks me to stay like may be able to slime his way in but just 'Hey drive over and stay in my uncomfy bed' I don't want to so nothing you say is going to change that.
Then he started on the whole 'I could develop feelings for you' thing its so silly we've hung out we've had crap sex and neither of us has felt anything, doing it again isn't going to change anything. If there is casual sex going on the actual sex needs to be awesome.
I want someone to take me out for a late breakfast on this awesome sunny saturday, not someone that wants me to drive over late friday night to have blurh sex and a crap sleep.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Taking my own advice
Went to 24 hr pancake parlour last night to meet a guy for the first time for a drink. Name was Trent, 30 been talking online for a few months but just kind of a hey hows it going thing never really anything awesome. So decided to meet up, he looks nice in his one and only photo (should have been a red flag) and is nice to chat to on the phone, maybe a bit annoying but willing to wait and see.
I get their first, find a booth and sit with my back to the entrance because I hate looking/waiting for someone I don't know, it's nerve racking. Hear a sort of mumble noise to my right, look up as this receding/bald guy walks into a chair whilst walking over to me. Takes me a couple of seconds to realise that this guy with a ring of hair around his earline is Trent and I should have re-read my first post on this blog before going out on this drink date.
Hat on in all his photos = receding or balding. Trent only had one photo but he had a hat on it in. It's not that I'm hating on bald/receding guys, it would be a really heartbreaking horrible thing to come to terms with going bald at 30 but confidence is everything. You have to own it, shave off the pathetic remaining hair and don't wear a hat in your only photo so it looks like you have a full head of hair. It's the equivalent of a girl having a head shot where she looks nice and slim only to be hugely fat in real life, bald receding or fat you need to make sure a person knows that's what they are getting themselves in for when going on a first date. Otherwise like me you will be trying to listen to the person and keep up your end of the conversation while being unable to stop starting at a bald head and earline hair ring and thinking why did he hide that what a dirty liar.
To make things worse I woke up to a text from him 'had a good time just woke up how about you'. I need to decide if I'm going to go with the 'nicer' lie of 'you seem nice there just wasn't a spark' or actually be honest in the hope he may rethink the way he approaches his next date/meeting with another girl and tell him 'look you presented yourself as someone with hair and made you seem like a liar turning up with no hair'. Think the latter will just make me seem like im judgmental and hate bald guys and he won't use it as constructive feedback to make another meeting less shocking for another girl.
I get their first, find a booth and sit with my back to the entrance because I hate looking/waiting for someone I don't know, it's nerve racking. Hear a sort of mumble noise to my right, look up as this receding/bald guy walks into a chair whilst walking over to me. Takes me a couple of seconds to realise that this guy with a ring of hair around his earline is Trent and I should have re-read my first post on this blog before going out on this drink date.
Hat on in all his photos = receding or balding. Trent only had one photo but he had a hat on it in. It's not that I'm hating on bald/receding guys, it would be a really heartbreaking horrible thing to come to terms with going bald at 30 but confidence is everything. You have to own it, shave off the pathetic remaining hair and don't wear a hat in your only photo so it looks like you have a full head of hair. It's the equivalent of a girl having a head shot where she looks nice and slim only to be hugely fat in real life, bald receding or fat you need to make sure a person knows that's what they are getting themselves in for when going on a first date. Otherwise like me you will be trying to listen to the person and keep up your end of the conversation while being unable to stop starting at a bald head and earline hair ring and thinking why did he hide that what a dirty liar.
To make things worse I woke up to a text from him 'had a good time just woke up how about you'. I need to decide if I'm going to go with the 'nicer' lie of 'you seem nice there just wasn't a spark' or actually be honest in the hope he may rethink the way he approaches his next date/meeting with another girl and tell him 'look you presented yourself as someone with hair and made you seem like a liar turning up with no hair'. Think the latter will just make me seem like im judgmental and hate bald guys and he won't use it as constructive feedback to make another meeting less shocking for another girl.
Deleting Etiquette
Since my last 'steve's so great we're going out Thursday night' post I've been let down. Steve is hopeless, texting during the week and he's all 'we should catch up soon' so I reply 'Thursday night (as organised by him) or early?' he then seems to have no recollection of the planned date he organised and says he had to work out work rosters by maybe Thursday. wtf?
Then chatting online with him - he's on all the time but never starts the convo with me, but when I start it with him he's all 'Hey Stranger!!! (wtf why am I a stranger you're the one not saying hi to me) we need to catch up soon. Apparently now Thursday should be fine and he will text me the time and place during the day on Thursday.
Having very high doubts after work I went to the shopping centre to look at straighteners (mines making a buzzing noise and when i set it to 160 degrees it takes it upon itself to go up to 262 degrees and won't budge) and get some Salsas Mex Grill for dinner. There was no text or call or chat online about Thursday night dinner even though it was Thursday night. Later that night i was online and so was he - so no excuse that he was too busy to contact me - I havent bothered started a conversation after he didnt come through Thursday, he'd only have a lame excuse that he hasn't bothered to contact me with.
My dilemma, and it's stupid, is how long do I leave him on my online dating contact list (the site i'm on has a contact list msn-like chat feature) and my facebook? The no brainer answer is that he should already be blocked and deleted but my pride or something is trying to think of what's a good time frame to delete someone in if you aren't cut at them you have just lost interest because they are weird and confusing and hopeless and you don't want to see them again? I didn't do it in a huff on Thursday night when the date didn't happen because that's what I expected to happen and all his first date magic had worn off and I just didn't care.
Then chatting online with him - he's on all the time but never starts the convo with me, but when I start it with him he's all 'Hey Stranger!!! (wtf why am I a stranger you're the one not saying hi to me) we need to catch up soon. Apparently now Thursday should be fine and he will text me the time and place during the day on Thursday.
Having very high doubts after work I went to the shopping centre to look at straighteners (mines making a buzzing noise and when i set it to 160 degrees it takes it upon itself to go up to 262 degrees and won't budge) and get some Salsas Mex Grill for dinner. There was no text or call or chat online about Thursday night dinner even though it was Thursday night. Later that night i was online and so was he - so no excuse that he was too busy to contact me - I havent bothered started a conversation after he didnt come through Thursday, he'd only have a lame excuse that he hasn't bothered to contact me with.
My dilemma, and it's stupid, is how long do I leave him on my online dating contact list (the site i'm on has a contact list msn-like chat feature) and my facebook? The no brainer answer is that he should already be blocked and deleted but my pride or something is trying to think of what's a good time frame to delete someone in if you aren't cut at them you have just lost interest because they are weird and confusing and hopeless and you don't want to see them again? I didn't do it in a huff on Thursday night when the date didn't happen because that's what I expected to happen and all his first date magic had worn off and I just didn't care.
Saturday, February 12, 2011
chapel street & south yarra
I went out on a first date with a 33 yo Steve last night and it was the best. I started talking to him online Thursday night he asked me out for Friday and I hadn't been on a date for some time and he seemed great.
I met him at the bar he part owns on chapel street and he was the same/better in person and what was better he was into me, his catch phrase of the night was 'there must be something wrong with you', giving me loads of compliments and having a great chat in between his bar staff bringing me cocktails on his request. He probably sounds like a pretenious wanker, especially if you know chapel st but he was the sweetest nicest funnest (it's a word i just made it one) guy.
Meant to be seeing him again Thursday night, he wants to take me to one of those asian restaurants where they cook stuff on the grill/hot plate in front of you. Hope it happens, really cannot wait to see him again.
I met him at the bar he part owns on chapel street and he was the same/better in person and what was better he was into me, his catch phrase of the night was 'there must be something wrong with you', giving me loads of compliments and having a great chat in between his bar staff bringing me cocktails on his request. He probably sounds like a pretenious wanker, especially if you know chapel st but he was the sweetest nicest funnest (it's a word i just made it one) guy.
Meant to be seeing him again Thursday night, he wants to take me to one of those asian restaurants where they cook stuff on the grill/hot plate in front of you. Hope it happens, really cannot wait to see him again.
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