Went to 24 hr pancake parlour last night to meet a guy for the first time for a drink. Name was Trent, 30 been talking online for a few months but just kind of a hey hows it going thing never really anything awesome. So decided to meet up, he looks nice in his one and only photo (should have been a red flag) and is nice to chat to on the phone, maybe a bit annoying but willing to wait and see.
I get their first, find a booth and sit with my back to the entrance because I hate looking/waiting for someone I don't know, it's nerve racking. Hear a sort of mumble noise to my right, look up as this receding/bald guy walks into a chair whilst walking over to me. Takes me a couple of seconds to realise that this guy with a ring of hair around his earline is Trent and I should have re-read my first post on this blog before going out on this drink date.
Hat on in all his photos = receding or balding. Trent only had one photo but he had a hat on it in. It's not that I'm hating on bald/receding guys, it would be a really heartbreaking horrible thing to come to terms with going bald at 30 but confidence is everything. You have to own it, shave off the pathetic remaining hair and don't wear a hat in your only photo so it looks like you have a full head of hair. It's the equivalent of a girl having a head shot where she looks nice and slim only to be hugely fat in real life, bald receding or fat you need to make sure a person knows that's what they are getting themselves in for when going on a first date. Otherwise like me you will be trying to listen to the person and keep up your end of the conversation while being unable to stop starting at a bald head and earline hair ring and thinking why did he hide that what a dirty liar.
To make things worse I woke up to a text from him 'had a good time just woke up how about you'. I need to decide if I'm going to go with the 'nicer' lie of 'you seem nice there just wasn't a spark' or actually be honest in the hope he may rethink the way he approaches his next date/meeting with another girl and tell him 'look you presented yourself as someone with hair and made you seem like a liar turning up with no hair'. Think the latter will just make me seem like im judgmental and hate bald guys and he won't use it as constructive feedback to make another meeting less shocking for another girl.
No comments:
Post a Comment